Mgeni wa Mke wangu(Mwanaume), anahudumiwa na mke wangu zaidi yangu

Habari zenu wanajamvi,

Naombei msaada katika hili, rafiki yangu ameoa na ana watoto wawili chini ya miaka mitano,majuzi mkewe kamkaribisha mwanaume mwenye mtoto toka kijijini kwao Kwediboma,Handeni ili aje hapa Tanga mjini kwa ajili ya matibabu ya mwanawe.

Jamaa anaishi nyumba ya vyumba viwili na sebule na huyo mgeni wa mke wake amepewa chumba chake,jamaa kinachomuumiza kichwa ni mwenendo wa mkewe kumuandalia maji ya kuoga na kumuhandle huyo mgeni wa kiume kwa heshima kubwa bila yeye mumewe kutowahi kupata huduma hizo siku za nyuma.

Ameshamwambia mkewe kuwa hamhitaji mgeni huyo nyumbani kwake,ila mkewe amejitetetea kuwa jamaa hana mwenyeji mwingine hapa mjini.

Kesho ni siku ya jamaa(mgeni wa huyo mwanamke) kwenda kliniki Bombo hospitali kwa ajili ya upasuaji wa henia ya mwanawe,na hapo ndipo dereva la daladala anapopata shaka zaidi ya kukosa kumuona mkewe kwa kuwa atakuwa bize kumpelekea chakula jamaa na mwanaye hospitalini.

Dereva wa daladala amechanganyikiwa,anaomba ushauri wenu afanye nini? Yaani mpaka mishipa ya kichwa imemtoka na anaonekana kukosa amani kabisa.

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The Best Part Of Being Single Is Knowing Nobody's Cheating On You

At least I can rest easy at night.

The first time I was ever aware of being cheated on, I didn't care that much. As relationships go, ours was still relatively new and I wasn't all that sure about my overall commitment at that point. When I learned about it I was off on a trip and so the impact didn't really hit until I saw her again. When I did, feelings of disgust and betrayal came flooding in.

Little did I know, it wouldn't the last time I'd be cheated on. Over the years, a number my of relationships ended up with me being cheated on, including one engagement.

After awhile, I wondered if I was a magnet for misfortune but when I stopped feeling sorry for myself I realized something wonderful: the freedom of being single brings with it the benefit of knowing no one is cheating on you.

On the surface, that sentiment might sound a bit depressing but it really isn't. Relationships aren't for everyone,and most of the pain in life comes from trying to shoehorn oneself into situations that simply shouldn't be.

Once I figured out my "type," I also learned — through tremendous amounts of trial and error — that my type likes to be free. So why shouldn't I be?

We're conditioned to spend our lives chasing after "the one," and more often than not, the harder we search for that person the more they simply never show up — or we mistake people for the one when they should be "one of."

Being single and dating brings a level of comfort to my life where I'm shielded from the bitter notion of invest my time and heart into someone who turns around and stabs me in the back with their infidelity.

If you're still with me to this point, you might think that maybe being scorned, used, and abused tainted me. That I wouldn't be so jaded if I had the love of my life right next to me. Not necessarily so.

As I mentioned earlier, much of the pain in life comes from trying to force situations. Much of this comes as a result of preconceived notions of what relationships "should" be. Many affairs come as a result of one or both partners failing to live up to the fantasy set forth by what a perfect union should look and feel like.

With cheating, the story is usually the same. Sometimes it happens because of neglect and inattention; sometimes it happens because the relationship's gone past its natural expiration date. And instead of splitting up and finding new people, you choose to exist as virtual roommates if you're married, or simply live in pointless denial if you're not.

So many of my friends and acquaintances are going through their first and even second divorces because of infidelity, largely brought on by a simple desire by one of the parties to sleep with other people. The same goes for relationships where I've had to listen to horror stories of finding out that the person who was supposed to be their "forever" was doing the forever with someone else.

Hearing those stories like a broken record only makes me feel better about being single. mMaybe this won't always be the case. Maybe someday my true princess will come and said princess will be all-in, because I'll be all in.

And after all the bullsh*t that comes from surviving infidelity, I'll finally do things to keep the fires burning until we have our Notebook moment where we die within minutes of one another and float up to whatever resembles Heaven, where our spirits will dance together into infinity.

I just hope to hell the grass isn't greener on the other side of Heaven. I might be screwed.

Source : your tango

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Jua furaha yako iko wapi, itafute

Tofauti ya binadamu na viumbe wenzake wote, iko katika ufahamu. Binadamu anaweza kutumia ubongo wake vizuri zaidi na hivyo kujitofautisha na "wanyama" wenzake wasiojua wanakotoka na wanakoelekea.

Anao uwezo wa kujua anataka nini na afanyaje kukipata. Wenzake wote, pamoja na Sokwe mwenye Di Eni Ei zinazokaribia kufanana na zake, na hata wengine tukadhani wanachangia babu wa babu, hawana kingine wanachokitafuta zaidi ya uzazi. Wao, kuzaa kuna maana ya kufikia kiwango cha juu cha mafanikio katika kipindi cha maisha yao. Wakishazaa basi, hata wakifa, kwao kifo hicho hakitahesabika kuwa cha hasara.

Nini kusudi la binadamu kuzaliwa? Je, binadamu huyu anatafuta kitu gani katika kipindi cha maisha yake ambacho akikipata hicho basi anaridhika? Anataka nini ambacho akiisha kukipata basi, kwake hayo ndiyo mafanikio katika kilele chake?

Je, ni kuzaa kama ilivyo kwa ndugu zetu wanyama? Je, ni kuwa na mke mrembo kuliko wote (kama kweli yupo)? Ni kuwa bilionea nambari moja Bongo yote? Ama ni kuzawadiwa usomi kwa wingi wa shahada? Kwanza inasemekana kadiri binadamu anavyosoma ndivyo anavyokuwa mjinga, kwa sababu anazidi "kusoma mambo machache" mpaka unakuta anageuka mjinga anayejua kitu kimoja!

Kusudi ni nini? Ama ni furaha? kwamba binadamu anapigana vikumbo kutafuta furaha (utoshelevu) wa moyo wake? Kwamba awe Raisi afurahi. Awe na mke mzuri afurahi. Ajulikane. Afurahi. Je, ndivyo ilivyo?

Ukamilifu wa maisha ni kitu gani? Umezaliwa iliiweje? Ule, uzae, ufe? Wote tunajua kamwe hiyo haiwezi kuwa kweli.

 Na Ishmael

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What is Love?

1. A strong feeling of affection.

"babies fill parents with intense feelings of love"

synonyms: deep affection, fondness, tenderness, warmth, intimacy, attachment, endearment; devotion, adoration, doting, idolization, worship; passion, ardour, desire, lust, yearning, infatuation, adulation, besottedness

"his friendship with Helen grew into love"

compassion, care, caring, regard, solicitude, concern, warmth, friendliness, friendship, kindness, charity, goodwill, sympathy, kindliness, altruism, philanthropy, unselfishness, benevolence, brotherliness, sisterliness, fellow feeling, humanity

"their love for their fellow human beings" 

relationship, love affair, affair, romance, liaison, affair of the heart, intrigue, amour

"he is confident that their love can survive"

2. A  great interest and pleasure in something.

"his love for football"

synonyms: liking, weakness, partiality, bent, leaning, proclivity, inclination, disposition; enjoyment, appreciation, soft spot, taste, delight, relish, passion, zeal, appetite, zest, enthusiasm, keenness, predilection, penchant, fondness

"her love of fashion"

verb

3. Feel deep affection or sexual love for (someone).

"do you love me?"

synonyms: be in love with, be infatuated with, be smitten with, be besotted with, be passionate about; care very much for, feel deep affection for, hold very dear, adore, think the world of, be devoted to, dote on, cherish, worship, idolize, treasure, prize; informalbe mad/crazy/nuts/wild/potty about, have a pash on, carry a torch for

"I love you, Rory"

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